I have spoken to so many people who have found this time of global pause to be a blessing in ways they never could have imagined.
Families are reconnecting, forging deep bonds and genuine understand for one another. People who were struggling with the complexities of the external world are turning their attention inward, reflecting on their lives, relationships and self.
I have also seen and experienced the opposite – people being inconsiderate of other’s health, safety and feelings. Refusing to wear masks, ignoring social distancing and spending their precious time and energy to project negativity and cruelty.
Despite our struggles and hardships, is it ever necessary or just to project our negativity and pain onto others? The answer is, no.
Emotions are challenging. They can blow in like an unexpected storm and when we react we become engulfed, unable to differentiate between reality and the fictional scenarios our emotions create.
We have all been there, going over and over what you will do or say when confronted with a situation or person. We choose our words or actions not based on reality, because the scenario doesn’t actually exist, but instead based on the reaction we desire.
Instead of drawing our attention inward to ourselves, calming our emotions and reflecting on the role we can choose to play, we project these feelings and emotions onto others. And maybe, it makes us feel better in the moment, but it never lasts so we have to continue to project and put down to make ourselves feel better.
Over time this becomes a pattern and it doesn’t bring lasting happiness, fulfillment or any type of gain. It brings constant inner turmoil that can only be soothed through honest reflection.
This time of social distancing and isolation is a gift. Use the time to reflect inward, showering yourself with the understanding, compassion and forgiveness you need to move through life with grace.